Tag: life coaching

#45 Three Universal Leadership Lessons

April 9th, 2021 by

Whether you are a freshie learning your first role or a long-term manager, these basic leadership lessons are essential to your soft skill portfolio.

“Why should I care about leadership lessons, I’m just an employee,” you might ask. You should care because leadership is rooted in the self and you are the leader of your life. You need not become a manager to apply your leadership skills each day!

Lesson No. 1 Be the Leader You Wish You Had

You can sit around and ruminate; you can complain to colleagues or you can take action. But here’s the thing, bosses are human. Management is human. And it’s true they may not consider all things and all people all the time.

Can some leaders handle pressure better than others? Yes, of course. And you know in your mind what your boss should be doing differently. You might allow their faults to get to you. And let’s face it, sometimes bosses can be outright belligerent (see Post #44)

However, you get to choose how you respond to this stimulus. If your leadership lacks in one (or some) areas, then ask yourself how you can fill in the gaps. What it is they should be doing differently? If it’s within your boundaries, go out and do these things yourself within the confines of your job scope.

For instance, if it burns you up that leadership doesn’t respond to emails, always respond to yours. If it pains you to see leaders treating people poorly, make it a point to treat others with respect. If you wish leaders would take more initiative, initiate yourself to get the job done to the best of your abilities.

Lesson No. 2 Great Leaders Empower Critical Thinking

The roles of leadership are always up for debate. Some leaders like to give orders, instructions and directives. Others like to shame, criticize or blame. Some people claim great leaders are persuasive, assertive and outspoken… the debate rages on.

While opinions differ, especially from organization to organization, I believe leadership lesson number 2 is a gold mine:

Great leaders allow open dialogue that enables employees to self-reflect, critically think and problem-solve on their own. This is a mental, continuous improvement process that employees can take wherever they go.

A great leader’s contribution to the workplace? Leaving behind employees who apply this empowering mental technique on their own, with or without leadership.

Lesson No. 3 Don’t Lead Others Until You Can Lead Yourself

“Why are there so many bad leaders? How do incompetent people get promoted to positions they do not deserve? Why doesn’t management do something about XY&Z?” These are common questions (and complaints) I often hear.

This might just be one of the most powerful leadership lessons one can learn. Bosses, management, and leaders project their sense of self onto others via their management style. I’ll take this statement one step further. The way people treat you is an indication of the way they feel about who they are.

Leadership is not about having all the answers. It is not about covering up mistakes or fudging numbers. Leadership is not about having to please people. And it is definitely not about serving oneself.

Leadership lesson 3 is about uplifting your employees and colleagues.  Not an easy thing to do – this requires a leader to be whole with him/herself. It requires emotional maturity, self-accountability, the willingness to embrace fear and too many other skills to list.

Leadership is about extracting internal resources to upgrade external people around you.

Do you struggle to understand how you fit into your organization? Let me know what’s holding you back from leading yourself and the price you pay!

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#34 Life Coach vs Career Coach: What is the Difference?

November 6th, 2020 by

As you grapple with thoughts such as, “I’m not sure what I should do next”, or “I want a new job,” you may have considered hiring a career coach or a life coach. I will explain the main differences between my work as a life coach vs career coaching so you can decide which is best for your situation.

What is Life Coaching?

My function as an engineering life coach is to help professionals conduct a root cause analysis on their lives. I coach engineers through tough issues whether in the form of layoffs, career dissatisfaction, burnout, or simply feeling lost. Let’s dive into the two types of coaching so you can decide which is best for your situation.

The Life Coaching process is strategic and cognitive. It is applicable to you if you tell yourself:

  • I don’t know what my next career move should be
  • I hate my current job
  • There’s got to be more to life than this
  • Why can’t I find my dream job? (See Post #08)
  • I don’t deserve to be treated like this
  • My management is terrible
  • My life sucks
  • I don’t know if I should go back to school, get a new job, get another cert, or start my own biz
  • I wish I weren’t so stressed all the time
  • I don’t have enough time for everything
  • I’m overwhelmed

As a life coach, I help you get to the root of your issues and problems so you can 1) understand their origin, 2) reframe your situation to a manageable state, 3) decide how to cognitively resolve your problems.

What is Career Coaching?

The Career Coaching process is tactical and operational. It is applicable to you if you tell yourself

  • I want to move to ABC location and find a job there
  • I want XYZ job title with a specific pool of companies
  • I would like help with my interviewing/negotiating skills
  • I’d like someone to hold me accountable in my job search
  • I’m quite sure I know which jobs I will pursue next
  • I’ve dominated my current position and therefore I’m ready to leave
  • I need someone to help me with my resume
  • I’d like someone to tell me what I need to do to secure a job
  • I want help with strengths-finders test results

A career coach is more appropriate for you if your goal is to be matched to your desired job, industry, or company.

The below is a comparison of the main differences between each type of coach.

A Career Coach Offers Tactical Steps Towards the Search for a JobA Life Coach Offers Strategic Steps Towards the Search for Yourself
Refine your resumeRefine your mentality
External job searchInternal self-discovery
Connect with industryConnect with yourself
Plan your next career movePlan your next life move
Negotiation and interview skillsSelf-Confidence and emotional intelligence skills
Acts as accountability partnerTeaches self-accountability
Offers advice, suggestions, tipsDoes not offer advice; leads you to discover answers for yourself
Matches you to an external (dream) jobHelps you create an internal dream life
Life Coach vs Career Coach

Last, I will state that as a life coach, the skills I teach are meta – they are applicable to any area of your life. Essentially, you learn the meta skill of emotional problem-solving and self-awareness, despite prevailing circumstances.

There certainly can be some overlap between life coach vs career coach. This blog explains the high level differences between the two. If you are interested in free life coaching to help with unresolved issues in your life, send me a note. Let’s chat!

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